Goal Setting vs Goal Achieving

Dan John makes an important distinction between goal setting and goal achieving. Setting a goal can feel like daydreaming. 

Achieving a goal is more like solving a puzzle. 

You start with what you already have—your genetics, where you live, your circumstances—and then you do the work to find the solution.

One of the tools he uses is called the 5/2 plan. Ask yourself these five questions about your future:

  • What do you want in two decades?
  • In two years?
  • In two months?
  • Tomorrow?
  • Today?

If those questions feel overwhelming, you can also start with the opposite. Instead of asking what you want, ask what you don’t want. 

Dan John has a term for this that I’ve renamed for this newsletter: Reverse Goals. The idea is simple. When you catch yourself doing something that does not serve you, the lesson is, I am not going to do that again.

This is how we avoid being pulled into the latest fitness fad or quick-fix promise. 

Instead, we keep coming back to the fundamentals, the same way we return to basics in Kung Fu and Tai Chi:

  • Eat the right amount for your body each day.
  • Get enough protein to support recovery and strength.
  • Train with weights 2–3 times a week, just as we train our forms.
  • Walk more (I aim for 10,000 steps a day).
  • Sleep enough so the body and mind can recharge.

Add flossing and a yearly check-up, and you have a strong foundation. Not fancy, but it works.

This week, take a moment to answer those five questions for yourself. Then, choose one simple habit from the list above and give it your focus. 

Daydreams turn into progress when we put them into practice.

See you in training,

Sifu Oscar

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals.
Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

The Secret to Long-Term Progress

Fall in Love With the Basics

You’ve got to enjoy what you’re doing, but more importantly, you have to enjoy the process.

I recently told an advanced student: “You have to keep falling back in love with the basics, not just the new stuff.”

You also can’t improve everything at once. Some skills need to go on “maintenance mode” while you focus on priorities. That focus is a superpower, one I still need to work on myself. 

When I feel good, I start adding too much, and the priorities slip away.

Remember, there’s a law of diminishing returns. Doing 50 kicks gets you more than 25, but not twice the results. Each extra set gives smaller gains than the last. 

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t push, but it’s worth understanding.

And one last thing: don’t glorify fatigue. Being tired is not the goal, it’s just a byproduct of working hard enough to change. The goal is growth. Fatigue will show up along the way.

Sifu Oscar

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals.
Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Stuck in Training? Here’s What To Do

When Progress Slows Down

People often make the fastest gains when they’re new to training. The body adapts quickly, but then… progress slows. So what do you do when things get tough?

  1. Add more intention. Sometimes you need intensity, but at Wah Lum we call it intention. Push yourself to failure every once in a while so you know where the edge is, and learn how to pull back just before reaching it.
  2. Give it time. More reps, more time on the program, more basics. Skill takes time.
  3. Show up. Don’t skip, don’t constantly switch routines. Just keep showing up.

Progress is never linear. There will be slowdowns, setbacks, and bursts of growth. Just like investing, the key is to focus on long-term trends, not short-term fluctuations.

Sifu Oscar

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals.
Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Finding Your “Why” in Training

What makes you Tick?

I’ve been thinking a lot about how to make real progress in training. This applies to any pursuit, but for me, it’s mostly Kung Fu, Tai Chi, and strength training.

The first step is figuring out what makes you tick. What keeps you putting in effort consistently; through the tough days, weeks, and years? What’s your why?

For me, it’s two things:

  • My role as an instructor, holding myself to a standard for my students. 
  • My love as a student, striving to grow and improve within Wah Lum tradition. 

Another tool that’s helped me, especially in strength training, is writing things down. Sets, reps, weights, and notes on how I felt. Keeping track makes it clear that even when I feel stuck, I am progressing.

I don’t do this enough in Kung Fu and Tai Chi. Sure, I can see I’ve learned more forms and techniques, but quantity doesn’t equal quality. I could track martial intent, smoothness, endurance; maybe even score myself 1–10.

My plan? Before each training session, open my journal, review the last session, and decide one small way I’ll beat my past self. The key is not huge leaps, just being a little better than yesterday.

 

See you in class,

Sifu Oscar

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals.
Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Use Your Strengths

Do you know what your strengths are?

Not just what you’re good at- but what energizes you.
What puts you in the zone. What makes time fly.
What you’d do again, even if no one was watching. 

 

Your Strengths Are Your Responsibility

Those strengths? They’re not accidents. They’re assignments. 

Your gifts were given to be used.

They’re not just strengths—they’re responsibilities. Our purpose in life is tied to how we contribute them.

 

Why It Matters:

Too often, we obsess over our flaws. But that voice that says “you’re not good enough” is not new.

It’s not helpful. And honestly, it’s kind of boring. 

Your strengths are more interesting.
They speak to who you are and who you’re becoming.

Strengths aren’t just what you’re good at.They’re the things that energize and strengthen you—even if you’re not good at them… yet.


What To Do:

  • Focus on the activities that you want to do again (hopefully Kung Fu or Tai Chi!).
  • Don’t confuse talent with passion. 
  • Forget the external “adornments”—titles, —and focus on the activity itself.
  • Practice what you love. Your appetite will lead you to mastery.

And remember: nothing great is done alone.

Your strengths grow stronger in community. That’s what we’re building here at Wah Lum.

Keep practicing. Keep contributing. Keep becoming who you’re meant to be.

Slowing Down To Level Up

In today’s world, distractions are everywhere. We’re constantly bombarded with stimulus, making it easy to jump from one thing to the next without truly mastering anything. The same happens in martial arts—taking on too much at once can dilute our progress.

Tai Chi offers a different path: one of refinement. With each slow, deliberate movement, we train key principles—weight shifting, relaxation, breath control, rooting, and internal awareness. Even standing in a stance reveals hidden tension. 

Hour by hour, day by day, you can release that tension, and in doing so, discover a whole new world within.

If you practice Kung Fu, you can benefit by slowing down and focusing on smaller sections of a form. Your body becomes a comprehensive internal laboratory for refining fundamentals. 

 

Small Movements, Big Impact

Mastery isn’t about adding more techniques—it’s about deepening our understanding of the ones we already know. 

A classic straight punch, for example, isn’t just about the arm. It starts from the ground, moves through the legs, transfers through the torso, and finally, reaches the fingertips. With patient refinement, tension dissolves, and connection strengthens. Over time, what once felt rigid becomes fluid, effortless, and powerful.

 

What’s Next?

This week, focus on depth over breadth. Take one small movement—maybe a stance, a weight shift, or a simple strike—and refine it. Slow it down, feel the connection from foot to fingertip, and notice the subtle changes. The better you understand one technique, the more it enhances everything else. 

True skill isn’t about learning more—it’s about mastering what you already know.

Train smart. Stay focused.

See you in class!

 

Sifu Oscar

Control Corner 24 with Sifu Oscar: The Power of Self-Examination

In martial arts and in life, control is everything. That’s why at Wah Lum, the flipped Chinese character for ‘Fire’ symbolizes the art of control. Welcome to the Control Corner, your weekly guide to focusing on what matters and achieving your potential.

Essentials: Success isn’t just about talent or luck—it’s about the ability to reflect, learn, and grow. As Angela Duckworth, author of Grit, points out, those who succeed have a strong appetite for self-examination.

Why It Matters: Taking time to assess yourself—especially after setbacks—builds resilience. Instead of dwelling on failure, ask: How could I have done this better? What can I learn from this? The ability to reflect and adjust is what turns challenges into stepping stones.

What’s Next: Make self-examination a habit. After training, a tough day, or a misstep, pause and reflect. The more you refine your approach, the stronger you become—both in Kung Fu and in life.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 23 with Sifu Oscar: The Power of Thinking

Welcome to the Control Corner, your weekly dose of wisdom on mastering control in martial arts, health, and life. At Wah Lum, the flipped Chinese character for ‘Fire’ represents control—an idea central to everything we do. 

Let’s explore how focusing on what matters can help you reach your full potential.

Essentials: Throughout history, deep thinking has powered successful people. It’s not about thinking more, but thinking better. Taking just a moment to reflect—whether through Kung Fu, Tai Chi, reading, or time in nature—can unlock insights that shape your path.

Why It Matters: When you pause and truly listen to yourself, you gain clarity about your goals, your challenges, and your aspirations. The strongest traditions, the ones that have stood the test of time, are the ones that encourage deeper thinking. Success isn’t just about working harder—it’s also about thinking just a bit deeper.

What’s Next: In today’s world, focus is the new IQ. Those who cultivate the ability to concentrate without distraction will thrive. Give yourself space to think—slow down during forms, focus on your breath, or take a mindful moment after training.

As Bruce Lee said, “To become different from what we are, we must have some awareness of what we are.” The more you cultivate thoughtful awareness, the more you’ll see old ideas in new ways—and that’s where true growth happens.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Why Training Barefoot (or Close to It) Matters

Hey there,

A long time ago, people walked and even ran without shoes—up hills, down rocky canyons, and across the grasslands, all barefoot. Then came sandals, running shoes, and, at some point, even Kinky Boots.

(I saw the musical and enjoyed it, but I digress.)

Just like everything else these days, we have endless options for our feet. This post isn’t about fashion, but I’ve been told that the incredible discomfort of wearing a certain shoe with a red bottom is totally worth it.

But when it comes to movement—whether in Kung Fu, Tai Chi, or strength training—your feet need more than just style.

Why Try Going Barefoot?

Your body is a superstructure, and your feet are its built-in foundation. They’re designed to be strong, mobile, and capable. When we put them in stiff, cushioned shoes, it’s like taking color out of our vision—life (and movement) becomes a little less vibrant.

Two key reasons I go barefoot or wear minimalist (my Wah Lum) shoes when training:

  1. Better Proprioception

Proprioception is your brain’s ability to sense where your body is in space. The more feedback your feet receive from the ground, the better your body moves. Shoes that squish your toes reduce this feedback, leading to weaker stabilizers and poor coordination.

That said, the shoes we use for Kung Fu and Tai Chi do bring the toes closer together than ideal, but after over 20 years of training at Wah Lum, I feel it’s well worth it. When making dynamic movements or quick directional changes, I’ve found that a thin sole and a snug fit provide security in my stances.

Plus, since I only wear them for an hour at a time, my feet still get plenty of time to splay and move naturally.

At Wah Lum, we also place great importance on looking uniform in class. Yes, each student is unique and special, but what truly makes us unique is that we’re all training together, in the same uniform, practicing the same martial art. 

That shared discipline and tradition set us apart.

  1. Improved Strength and Mobility

If you don’t need to protect your feet from the cold or sharp objects, try going barefoot. Start by walking around the house when you get home and maybe even introducing toe separators for short periods. As you get stronger, you’ll be able to go for longer periods of time.

Barefoot walking also helps improve big toe dorsiflexion (flexing the big toe upward), which impacts movement throughout the body. Most shoes don’t allow for this unless they have a wide toe box and zero drop (no heel elevation).

Shoes and Training

Stiff, thick-soled, highly cushioned shoes limit foot mobility and proprioceptive input, essentially putting your feet in casts. They disconnect you from the ground, which is the opposite of what you want when strength training.

In martial arts, this connection—often called “rooting”—is fundamental. It’s just as important for lifting.

The Problem with Raised Heels

Most athletic shoes have built-in heels that shift your center of gravity forward. This:

  • Deactivates the backside of the body (posterior chain)
  • Overloads the quads
  • Reduces core activation
  • Increases stress on the lower back

All of this forces improper body mechanics and increases injury risk. Proper mechanics not only help generate more force (hello, strength gains!) but also protect your joints and connective tissues.

The Best Shoe for Strength and Martial Arts Training

If you’ve been wearing thick, cushioned shoes for years, don’t jump straight into barefoot training. Instead:

  1. Transition to shoes with a slightly lower heel.
  2. Gradually move to a thin, flexible sole that bends at the arch.
  3. Consider your range of motion, joint strength, and stability before going fully barefoot.

Think about it this way: Would you load heavy weight onto a weak and unstable shoulder? Probably not. The same logic applies to your feet.

If you are a Wah Lum Student you are in luck! The shoes provided for training are designed to support your Kung Fu and Tai Chi practice. Over time, you’ll get used to them and notice how they enhance your movement, balance, and connection to the ground.

Bonus: A Fun Foot-Strengthening Trick

Want to improve your foot strength and mobility? Try standing on a box of rocks. Yep, just like it sounds. And while you’re at it, enjoy a single malt scotch on the rocks—because balance is key in more ways than one!

One Last Thought: Running vs. Strength Training

This post focuses on martial arts and strength training, not running—which is a skill that deserves its own discussion. But whatever you do, make sure your shoe is lightweight. Every extra 500 grams on your foot equals an extra 10 pounds on your back.

Your challenge: Spend a little time barefoot every day. Feel the ground, spread your toes, and see how it changes your movement.

Stay grounded,

Sifu Oscar

Control Corner 14 from Sifu Oscar: Mastering the Tools, Not Being One

At Wah Lum, the flipped ‘Fire’ character represents control—a powerful philosophy woven into our practice and teachings. Welcome to this week’s Control Corner, where we explore ways to focus on what matters and grow in martial arts, health, and life.

Essentials: Jim Kwik in his book Limitless compares technology to fire: a tool that can either cook your food or burn your house down, depending on how you use it. Tools like fire—and technology—are neither inherently good nor bad. The key is conscious control. Without it, you risk becoming the tool, rather than the master.

Why It Matters: In a world filled with distractions, it’s easy to let technology take over. Notifications, endless scrolling, and digital noise can consume our time and energy. Control isn’t about avoiding technology; it’s about setting boundaries and using it purposefully. Think of it as mastering your Kung Fu and Tai Chi skills – you decide how to wield it for good.

What’s Next: This week, take inventory of your digital habits. Are they serving your goals, or are they pulling you off course? Try setting time limits on apps or dedicating tech-free zones in your day. Remember, control is about using tools to empower, not enslave.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.