Category: Sifu Oscar’s Blog

The Secret to Lasting Progress

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One of the hardest lessons in training is patience. Real strength takes time. It takes at least six weeks before the body even begins to adapt. 

What feels like progress early on is often just your nervous system getting better at the movement. That is not wasted time, it is practice, but it is not true strength yet.

This is why frustration is part of the path. Every elite athlete has had to learn it. You will not feel progress every day. 

If excellence were easy, everyone would achieve it.

Most people give up simply because they expect too much too soon. They confuse the normal ups and downs of training with failure. 

The road to extraordinary results is never straight.

So how do you keep moving forward?

  • Show up.
  • Do the work.
  • Go home.

Progress comes from a steady work ethic paired with determination. Once you decide on your goal, stick with it. Do not compromise.

True progress requires long-term focus. No drama. No beating yourself up over small setbacks. 

Learn to enjoy the process, because you will spend far more time on the journey than in those brief moments of victory.

Celebrate the wins when they come. Learn from the defeats. 

And remember, if you are never failing, you are not pushing hard enough.

Most importantly, forget the timeline. It will take as long as it takes. Make the decision once and stay committed. That single choice is more powerful than any shortcut.

Kung Fu itself means hard work over time. 

At Wah Lum, our art reminds us that mastery is not about quick fixes. It is about patience, perseverance, and refusing to settle for less than your best.

See you in training,

Sifu Oscar

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals.
Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Managing Force, Not Absorbing It

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We often hear phrases like “absorb the force” when landing from a jump, taking a strike, or even during Tai Chi push hands. But here’s the truth: you don’t actually absorb force, you manage it.

If force isn’t managed properly, your tissues break down. That’s where injuries happen.

Newton’s 3rd Law reminds us: for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. When your foot hits the ground, the ground pushes back with equal force. This is called ground reaction force—and it’s something we must learn to control.

In Kung Fu, especially when we practice jumps, our ability to manage these forces makes all the difference. Here’s what the body deals with every time we move:

  • Walking: 1–1.5 × your bodyweight
  • Running: 2–2.9 × your bodyweight
  • Jumping: up to 7 × your bodyweight

Think about that. A 150-pound person landing from a jump could be managing over 1,000 pounds of force!

In Tai Chi, we practice the same principle in a softer way through push hands. Instead of letting force overwhelm us, we redirect, root, and return it. The skill is not in stopping force, but in managing where it goes.

Whether you’re landing from a Kung Fu jump or feeling pressure in Tai Chi push hands, the lesson is the same: force must be managed. 

Strong stances, mindful practice, and controlled movements keep our bodies safe and our training sustainable.

This week in class, pay attention to how you land, how you root, and how you redirect energy. 

That’s where control and resilience are developed

See you in training,

Sifu Oscar

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals.
Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Goal Setting vs Goal Achieving

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Dan John makes an important distinction between goal setting and goal achieving. Setting a goal can feel like daydreaming. 

Achieving a goal is more like solving a puzzle. 

You start with what you already have—your genetics, where you live, your circumstances—and then you do the work to find the solution.

One of the tools he uses is called the 5/2 plan. Ask yourself these five questions about your future:

  • What do you want in two decades?
  • In two years?
  • In two months?
  • Tomorrow?
  • Today?

If those questions feel overwhelming, you can also start with the opposite. Instead of asking what you want, ask what you don’t want. 

Dan John has a term for this that I’ve renamed for this newsletter: Reverse Goals. The idea is simple. When you catch yourself doing something that does not serve you, the lesson is, I am not going to do that again.

This is how we avoid being pulled into the latest fitness fad or quick-fix promise. 

Instead, we keep coming back to the fundamentals, the same way we return to basics in Kung Fu and Tai Chi:

  • Eat the right amount for your body each day.
  • Get enough protein to support recovery and strength.
  • Train with weights 2–3 times a week, just as we train our forms.
  • Walk more (I aim for 10,000 steps a day).
  • Sleep enough so the body and mind can recharge.

Add flossing and a yearly check-up, and you have a strong foundation. Not fancy, but it works.

This week, take a moment to answer those five questions for yourself. Then, choose one simple habit from the list above and give it your focus. 

Daydreams turn into progress when we put them into practice.

See you in training,

Sifu Oscar

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals.
Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

The Secret to Long-Term Progress

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Fall in Love With the Basics

You’ve got to enjoy what you’re doing, but more importantly, you have to enjoy the process.

I recently told an advanced student: “You have to keep falling back in love with the basics, not just the new stuff.”

You also can’t improve everything at once. Some skills need to go on “maintenance mode” while you focus on priorities. That focus is a superpower, one I still need to work on myself. 

When I feel good, I start adding too much, and the priorities slip away.

Remember, there’s a law of diminishing returns. Doing 50 kicks gets you more than 25, but not twice the results. Each extra set gives smaller gains than the last. 

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t push, but it’s worth understanding.

And one last thing: don’t glorify fatigue. Being tired is not the goal, it’s just a byproduct of working hard enough to change. The goal is growth. Fatigue will show up along the way.

Sifu Oscar

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals.
Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Stuck in Training? Here’s What To Do

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When Progress Slows Down

People often make the fastest gains when they’re new to training. The body adapts quickly, but then… progress slows. So what do you do when things get tough?

  1. Add more intention. Sometimes you need intensity, but at Wah Lum we call it intention. Push yourself to failure every once in a while so you know where the edge is, and learn how to pull back just before reaching it.
  2. Give it time. More reps, more time on the program, more basics. Skill takes time.
  3. Show up. Don’t skip, don’t constantly switch routines. Just keep showing up.

Progress is never linear. There will be slowdowns, setbacks, and bursts of growth. Just like investing, the key is to focus on long-term trends, not short-term fluctuations.

Sifu Oscar

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals.
Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Finding Your “Why” in Training

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What makes you Tick?

I’ve been thinking a lot about how to make real progress in training. This applies to any pursuit, but for me, it’s mostly Kung Fu, Tai Chi, and strength training.

The first step is figuring out what makes you tick. What keeps you putting in effort consistently; through the tough days, weeks, and years? What’s your why?

For me, it’s two things:

  • My role as an instructor, holding myself to a standard for my students. 
  • My love as a student, striving to grow and improve within Wah Lum tradition. 

Another tool that’s helped me, especially in strength training, is writing things down. Sets, reps, weights, and notes on how I felt. Keeping track makes it clear that even when I feel stuck, I am progressing.

I don’t do this enough in Kung Fu and Tai Chi. Sure, I can see I’ve learned more forms and techniques, but quantity doesn’t equal quality. I could track martial intent, smoothness, endurance; maybe even score myself 1–10.

My plan? Before each training session, open my journal, review the last session, and decide one small way I’ll beat my past self. The key is not huge leaps, just being a little better than yesterday.

 

See you in class,

Sifu Oscar

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals.
Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Kung Fu, Tai Chi, Steps, and the Other 165 Hours of Your Week

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If you’re training at Wah Lum two or three times a week, good for you! That already puts you ahead of the average person. But here’s a question: is it enough for our otherwise sedentary lifestyle?

There are 168 hours in a week. Even with three intense classes, that still leaves 165 hours to fill. What are you doing with the rest of your time?

A few months ago, I read strength coach Dan John’s experience with walking 10,000 steps a day. He credited that simple habit (not an extreme workout plan) with helping him get lean and stay lean. Inspired, I bought a $15 pedometer for a 30-day experiment. I chose an inexpensive one for two reasons:

  • Studies suggest basic pedometers can be more accurate than fancy phones. 
  • I didn’t want to rely on my phone or invest in a high-tech watch for a short trial. 

It turns out that walking 10,000 steps is not a new concept. The idea gained popularity in Japan during the lead-up to the 1964 Tokyo Olympics, when a pedometer brand called manpo-kei (literally “10,000 steps meter”) used the number as a catchy marketing tool. While the number wasn’t based on science at the time, modern research shows it’s a pretty good daily target for overall health.

Here’s what I learned from my own trial:

  • Hitting 10,000 steps was harder than I thought unless I planned for it. 
  • Kung Fu and strength training alone didn’t get me there, even if I did both on the same day. 
  • Yard work easily pushed me past the goal, as did a 45–60 minute walk with my mom on Sundays. 
  • On most other days, I had to intentionally add movement to hit the target. 

One interesting side effect: when I hit 10,000 steps or more, I felt pleasantly tired and wanted to go to bed earlier. That alone felt like a win.

I also realized I didn’t need to wear the pedometer all day. Instead, I put it on only when I was going to move outside of Kung Fu or strength training, such as during walks or yard work. This way, my steps were “true” additional movement, not just my daily total. Even hitting 5,000–8,000 intentional steps this way felt beneficial.

Walking might not sound as exciting as throwing kicks or moving weights around, but it’s a simple, proven way to add more movement to your life. So, the next time you think about your training, remember: it’s not just about the three hours a week you spend at the Temple, it’s about the other 165 hours too.

-Sifu Oscar

Use Your Strengths

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Do you know what your strengths are?

Not just what you’re good at- but what energizes you.
What puts you in the zone. What makes time fly.
What you’d do again, even if no one was watching. 

 

Your Strengths Are Your Responsibility

Those strengths? They’re not accidents. They’re assignments. 

Your gifts were given to be used.

They’re not just strengths—they’re responsibilities. Our purpose in life is tied to how we contribute them.

 

Why It Matters:

Too often, we obsess over our flaws. But that voice that says “you’re not good enough” is not new.

It’s not helpful. And honestly, it’s kind of boring. 

Your strengths are more interesting.
They speak to who you are and who you’re becoming.

 Strengths aren’t just what you’re good at.They’re the things that energize and strengthen you—even if you’re not good at them… yet.


What To Do:

  • Focus on the activities that you want to do again (hopefully Kung Fu or Tai Chi!).
  • Don’t confuse talent with passion. 
  • Forget the external “adornments”—titles, —and focus on the activity itself.
  • Practice what you love. Your appetite will lead you to mastery.

And remember: nothing great is done alone.

Your strengths grow stronger in community. That’s what we’re building here at Wah Lum.

Keep practicing. Keep contributing. Keep becoming who you’re meant to be.

Slowing Down To Level Up

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In today’s world, distractions are everywhere. We’re constantly bombarded with stimulus, making it easy to jump from one thing to the next without truly mastering anything. The same happens in martial arts—taking on too much at once can dilute our progress.

Tai Chi offers a different path: one of refinement. With each slow, deliberate movement, we train key principles—weight shifting, relaxation, breath control, rooting, and internal awareness. Even standing in a stance reveals hidden tension. 

Hour by hour, day by day, you can release that tension, and in doing so, discover a whole new world within.

If you practice Kung Fu, you can benefit by slowing down and focusing on smaller sections of a form. Your body becomes a comprehensive internal laboratory for refining fundamentals. 

 

Small Movements, Big Impact

Mastery isn’t about adding more techniques—it’s about deepening our understanding of the ones we already know. 

A classic straight punch, for example, isn’t just about the arm. It starts from the ground, moves through the legs, transfers through the torso, and finally, reaches the fingertips. With patient refinement, tension dissolves, and connection strengthens. Over time, what once felt rigid becomes fluid, effortless, and powerful.

 

What’s Next?

This week, focus on depth over breadth. Take one small movement—maybe a stance, a weight shift, or a simple strike—and refine it. Slow it down, feel the connection from foot to fingertip, and notice the subtle changes. The better you understand one technique, the more it enhances everything else. 

True skill isn’t about learning more—it’s about mastering what you already know.

Train smart. Stay focused.

See you in class!

 

Sifu Oscar

Control Corner 25 from Sifu Oscar: The Mirror of Mastery

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At Wah Lum, the flipped Chinese character for ‘Fire’ reminds us that control is the key to mastering life’s challenges. Welcome to the Control Corner, where we share weekly wisdom to help you unlock your potential.

Essentials: Mastery begins with self-awareness. In West with the Night, author Beryl Markham reflects on how we spend our lives studying others while often remaining strangers to ourselves. As a pilot, alone in the vast night sky, she discovered the power of self-observation—an essential skill in both life and martial arts.

Why It Matters: True progress isn’t just about watching and learning from others; it’s about turning that focus inward. In martial arts, we often want to rush to advanced techniques, but true skill comes from refining the basics with patience and awareness. Just as Markham had to master small skills before flying solo, every stance, every movement, every breath is an opportunity for deeper understanding.

What’s Next: This week, be your own observer. Set aside time to train alone, focusing on the fundamentals with fresh eyes. What do you discover when you’re fully present with yourself? Mastery isn’t just about learning more—it’s about seeing more in what you already know.

Here is a small excerpt from the book West with the Night by Beryl Markham that inspired this post. 

“You can live a lifetime and, at the end of it, know more about other people than you know about yourself. You learn to watch other people, but you never watch yourself because you strive against loneliness. 

If you read a book, or shuffle a deck of cards, or care for a dog, you are avoiding yourself. The abhorrence of loneliness is as natural as wanting to live at all. If it were otherwise, men would never have bothered to make an alphabet, not to have fashioned words out of what were only animal sounds, not to have crossed continents – each man to see what the other looked like. 

Being alone in an aeroplane for even so short a time as a night and a day, irrevocably alone, with nothing to observe but your instruments and your own hands in semi-darkness, nothing to contemplate but the size of your small courage, nothing to wonder about but the beliefs, the faces, and the hopes rooted in your mind – such an experience can be as startling as the first awareness of a stranger walking by your side at night. You are the stranger.”