Control Corner 17 from Sifu Oscar: Trusting Intuition, Embracing Awareness

Control is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. At Wah Lum, the flipped ‘Fire’ character represents that philosophy, and the Control Corner is where we explore how it applies to your martial arts, health, and life goals.

Essentials: Intuition is a powerful tool—it’s knowing something without fully understanding why. Gavin de Becker, in his book The Gift of Fear reminds us that intuition can be rooted in curiosity, suspicion, dark humor, and fear. While denial is choosing not to know something despite having the facts, intuition invites us to trust the signals we perceive, even if they defy logic.

Why It Matters: Your intuition is like an early warning system, designed to protect you. Suppressing those feelings in the name of over-analysis or fear of being politically incorrect can put you at risk. The key isn’t blind reaction but thoughtful awareness—listening to your inner voice while taking responsibility for your safety.

What’s Next: Train your intuition by feeding it the right information. Martial artists, study their environment, understand patterns, and refine their ability to discern. When a feeling arises, ask yourself: Am I going to ignore this or pay attention? The more you honor your intuition, the stronger it becomes.

Control isn’t about paranoia; it’s about being prepared, present, and willing to listen to the one person you’re most responsible for—yourself.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 16 from Sifu Oscar: The Power of Self-Awareness

The flipped ‘Fire’ character at Wah Lum isn’t just a symbol—it’s a reminder that control transforms lives. Welcome to the Control Corner, where we share practical insights each week to help you focus and unlock your potential.

Essentials: Control begins with self-awareness- knowing who you are, owning it, and embracing both your strengths and shortcomings. True control isn’t about perfection; it’s about honesty. 

Why It Matters: When you stop chasing a romanticized version of yourself, accept what you don’t excel at, and lean into what makes you great, everything changes. Execution matters more than ideas, and self-awareness gives you the clarity to move forward with purpose. Accepting yourself isn’t just liberating; it’s your strongest play.  

What’s Next: Reflect on your strengths. What do you do better than most? Where do you struggle? Be honest. Create an environment where you – and others – can speak the truth without fear. Use that truth to fuel your next move.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 15 from Sifu Oscar: Prioritizing Health Over Fitness

Welcome to this week’s edition of the Control Corner! Inspired by Wah Lum’s flipped Chinese character for ‘Fire,’ we’ll share insights to help you master control and achieve balance in martial arts, health, and everyday life.

Essentials: As my strength coach Brett Jones wisely said, “The only place fitness comes before health is in the dictionary.” This highlights a powerful truth: prioritizing fitness at the expense of health is a losing game. True training success lies in enhancing overall well-being, not just chasing performance goals.

Why It Matters: Exercise and training should support your health, not compromise it. Sleep, stress management, and nutrition are just as important as hitting your reps. A body fueled by rest and proper care performs better, recovers faster, and sustains progress longer.

What’s Next: This philosophy is why we named our strength, conditioning, and fitness program Control Your Health instead of something like “Control Your Fitness,” even though fitness-focused names might be more popular. Health isn’t just the foundation of all progress—it’s the long-term goal. This week, take a moment to assess: Are you prioritizing health as the bedrock of your training? Small changes in sleep, nutrition, or stress management can make a world of difference!

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 14 from Sifu Oscar: Mastering the Tools, Not Being One

At Wah Lum, the flipped ‘Fire’ character represents control—a powerful philosophy woven into our practice and teachings. Welcome to this week’s Control Corner, where we explore ways to focus on what matters and grow in martial arts, health, and life.

Essentials: Jim Kwik in his book Limitless compares technology to fire: a tool that can either cook your food or burn your house down, depending on how you use it. Tools like fire—and technology—are neither inherently good nor bad. The key is conscious control. Without it, you risk becoming the tool, rather than the master.

Why It Matters: In a world filled with distractions, it’s easy to let technology take over. Notifications, endless scrolling, and digital noise can consume our time and energy. Control isn’t about avoiding technology; it’s about setting boundaries and using it purposefully. Think of it as mastering your Kung Fu and Tai Chi skills – you decide how to wield it for good.

What’s Next: This week, take inventory of your digital habits. Are they serving your goals, or are they pulling you off course? Try setting time limits on apps or dedicating tech-free zones in your day. Remember, control is about using tools to empower, not enslave.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 13 from Sifu Oscar: Kindling the Fire Within

This is the Control Corner, where every week we dive into Wah Lum’s philosophy of control—symbolized by the flipped ‘Fire’ character—and apply it to health, martial arts, and living your best life. Ready to take control? Let’s get started!

Essentials: In Greek mythology, Prometheus gave fire to humanity, a symbol of knowledge, power, and transformation. Plutarch built on this idea, saying, “The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled.” These metaphors remind us that true growth isn’t about passively receiving information but actively nurturing curiosity, creativity, and self-mastery.

Why It Matters: Fire represents potential and power, but without control, it can burn out or cause destruction. In martial arts and life, cultivating your inner fire—your passion, focus, and drive—requires the discipline to direct it purposefully. Control isn’t about suppressing your fire but fueling it wisely so it burns bright and steady.

What’s Next: This week, think about your own fire. What sparks your curiosity or drives your goals? How can you stoke it with intention? Start by learning something new or challenging yourself in your practice—kindle your fire and watch it illuminate your path forward.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 12 from Sifu Oscar: Structure Sets You Free

Welcome to the Control Corner, where the flipped ‘Fire’ character inspires us to focus and take control. Whether it’s martial arts, health, or everyday life, we’re here to guide you on the path to mastery. Let’s begin this week’s journey!

Essentials: Structure and creativity might seem like opposites, but they work together beautifully. As the book Think Faster, Talk Smarter points out, structure can actually enhance spontaneity. It gives you a foundation for creativity while keeping your communication clear, concise, and focused.

Why It Matters: When our Wah Lum instructors are teaching – whether it’s during a Kung Fu or Tai Chi class –  the structure of the basics ensures our message lands effectively. 

One simple yet powerful method is “What—So What—Now What.” 

Start with your point (What), explain why it matters (So What), and end with actionable steps (Now What).

What’s Next: Try using this structure in your own training. 

For example: What? Joint Mobility improves your movement. 

So What? It reduces injuries and builds strength. 

Now What? Start a daily joint routine to stay healthy and strong.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 11 from Sifu Oscar: Cultivating Awareness for Success

At Wah Lum, the flipped Chinese character for ‘Fire’ reminds us that control is the key to mastering life’s challenges. Welcome to the Control Corner, where we share weekly wisdom to help you unlock your potential.

Essentials: Awareness isn’t about waiting for the right moment—it’s about tuning into the present, especially as life gets busy. By focusing on what you can control now, you’ll create a solid foundation for success, whether that’s with fitness, nutrition, or stress management.

Why It Matters: Many of us approach vacations or holidays with a “survival mode” mindset. But with awareness, you can maintain stability without feeling overwhelmed. Being mindful of your responses to everyday stress can help you stay focused on what truly matters, making the life more enjoyable and meaningful.

What’s Next: This week, take a few moments each day to notice what’s within your control. Simple actions like slowing your breathing, focusing on one task at a time, or grounding yourself in your surroundings can make a huge difference.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 10 from Sifu Oscar: Building Mobility Now, Not Later

Control starts with focus. Welcome to the Control Corner, where we explore Wah Lum’s philosophy of control, represented by the flipped ‘Fire’ character, and apply it to health, martial arts, and life. Let’s ignite your potential together.

Essentials: The best time to build joint and body health isn’t “someday” or “next year”—it’s now. When you incorporate regular mobility exercises, your body builds the strength it needs for smoother, injury-resistant movement. Think of it as your body’s holiday preparation!

Why It Matters: During the year, extra stress and inactivity can affect your joints, leaving you stiff or prone to injuries. Starting small now, even a few minutes a day, can make a big impact by the time January rolls around. Plus, you’ll feel more limber and ready to tackle anything that comes your way!

What’s Next: Start a simple daily mobility routine. Whether it’s a few gentle stretches or deepening your Kung Fu and Tai Chi practice, the sooner you start, the better you’ll feel.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 9 from Sifu Oscar: Start Small with Nutrition Now, Reap the Rewards Later

Control is the foundation of growth—in martial arts, health, and life. Welcome to this week’s Control Corner, where we honor Wah Lum’s flipped ‘Fire’ character by sharing tools to help you master what truly matters.

Essentials: There’s no need to wait for the “perfect time” to focus on your nutrition. Small, consistent steps—like mindful eating and balanced meals—can set the stage for a healthier, happier lifestyle.

Why It Matters: Whether it’s holiday gatherings, birthday celebrations, or regular weekends, having a foundation of good nutrition habits helps you enjoy these moments without overindulging. Starting small now can prevent sluggishness, keep you energized, and align with your health goals year-round.

What’s Next: Try a simple, healthy swap or mindful eating tip each day. Take your time to tune into your body and how food makes you feel. If you’re looking for extra guidance, we’re here to help—just reach out and let us know you’re ready to take the next step in your nutrition journey.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 8 from Sifu Oscar: Awareness vs. Acceptance (and Why It’s Good for Your Joints!)

In martial arts and in life, control is everything. That’s why at Wah Lum, the flipped Chinese character for ‘Fire’ symbolizes the art of control. Welcome to the Control Corner, your weekly guide to focusing on what matters and achieving your potential.

Essentials: I know, talking about death sounds like a downer—but hear me out! In Bitter Sweet, Susan Cain suggests that our difficulty accepting death is central to human suffering. Many great thinkers reminded themselves of mortality daily, even putting out their fires at night without leaving embers, just in case.

Why It Matters: There’s a difference between awareness and acceptance. You don’t have to accept impermanence, but awareness of it can actually bring more control to your life. Think of it like joint mobility: by regularly working on your range of motion and building strength in your end ranges, you gain control and stability. Awareness of life’s limits is similar; it reminds us to focus on what we can control—like how we care for our bodies and how we respond to life’s ups and downs.

What’s Next: Bring control into your daily routine. Start with daily joint mobility, strengthening end-range positions, and building joint control. And if you’re ready to go deeper into this practice, we’re starting a remote coaching program to help you strengthen both body and mindset. Sifu Oscar is bringing on a few students for a remote coaching flexibility/mobility program starting soon. If you’re interested, email kungfu@wahlum.com with “Control Mobility” for details.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 7 from Sifu Oscar: Use It or Lose It – The Power of Daily Joint Movement

Mastering control isn’t just about martial arts—it’s about mastering your life. Welcome to the Control Corner, where we share weekly insights to help you focus on what matters most. Inspired by Wah Lum’s flipped ‘Fire’ symbol, let’s dive in and build your foundation of control.

Essentials: Did you know your body is constantly remodeling itself? Every day, it adapts to what you do or don’t use. If you’re not moving your joints, you’re signaling your body to let that mobility go. To truly “own” a position, you need to remind your body every day that you want it.

Why It Matters: Consistent movement strengthens and preserves joint health, helping you avoid “use it or lose it” setbacks. Keeping your joints active helps you maintain control over your range of motion, reduces injury risk, and keeps your joints healthy.

What’s Next: Interested in building a daily movement habit? Sifu Oscar is inviting a few students to join a remote coaching flexibility/mobility program starting soon. If you’re interested, email kungfu@wahlum.com with “Control Mobility” for details.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 6 from Sifu Oscar: Injury-Proof Your Movements

Every week, the Control Corner brings you tools to master the art of control in your life. At Wah Lum, we honor the philosophy of control with the flipped ‘Fire’ character—symbolizing discipline and balance. 

Let’s ignite this week’s exploration of what truly matters!

Essentials: Injuries often happen when a joint is forced past its usual range, and its tissues can’t manage the pressure. Training your joints to handle these end-range positions helps convert flexibility into usable, controlled mobility.

Why It Matters: Training your body at these challenging ranges can be the difference between walking away from a minor mishap or sustaining a severe injury. Improving joint strength at end ranges decreases your injury risk and protects your mobility, even in unexpected twists and turns.

What’s Next: This week, work on strengthening your body’s end ranges. Choose one of the stances in Kung Fu or Tai Chi and hold the end range while contracting your muscles isometrically. Want to dive deeper? Sifu Oscar is bringing on a few students for a remote coaching flexibility/mobility program starting soon. If you’re interested, email kungfu@wahlum.com with “Control Mobility” for details.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 5 from Sifu Oscar: Building Joint Control for Better Movement

Control is at the heart of everything we do—martial arts, health, and beyond.

Welcome to the Control Corner, where we share weekly insights inspired by Wah Lum’s philosophy of control, represented by the flipped Chinese character for ‘Fire.’ 

Ready to unlock your potential?

Essentials: Control over your body starts with your joints. Dr. Andreo Spina emphasizes that training your joints to move fully and accurately prepares your muscles, ligaments, and even your brain for a more accurate sense of your physical space.

Why It Matters: The more control you have over your joints, the more stable and resilient your movements become. With this strong foundation, your body can move more precisely and is less prone to mistakes. Imagine making better progress in your Kung Fu and Tai Chi training because your body knows exactly where it is at all times!

What’s Next: Try a daily joint mobility routine that takes each joint through its full range of motion. By making this a habit, you’re already enhancing your body’s capabilities and long-term health. Follow along here.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 4 from Sifu Oscar: Focus on What’s Within Your Control

Welcome back to the Control Corner, where the journey to mastering your life begins. At Wah Lum, the flipped ‘Fire’ character symbolizes control, reminding us that focus and discipline are key to unlocking our potential. 

Let’s explore this week’s lessons!

Essentials: When life feels overwhelming, it’s easy to get caught up in trying to control things outside your reach. This can lead to frustration and distress. But often, we overlook the areas where we do have control – our behaviors, choices, and mindset.

Why it matters: Instead of stressing about the uncontrollable, ask yourself, “What is actually within my control right now?” Focusing on what you can control opens up space for clarity, new perspectives, and effective solutions.

More Info:This week, shift your attention to the behaviors and choices you know positively influence your life. Whether it’s your health, your martial arts practice, or even how you approach each day, taking control where you can will help reduce the noise of what’s outside your power.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 3 from Sifu Oscar: Find Your Fire

Our weekly Control Corner is all about harnessing control in every aspect of your life. At Wah Lum, we use the flipped Chinese character for ‘Fire’ as a symbol of control—a reminder that true strength begins with mastery over ourselves. 

Let’s dive into this week’s insights!

Essentials: Award-winning chef José Andrés once shared a story about his father cooking Paella, a dish traditionally made over an open fire. As a child, José was in charge of the fire and didn’t like the task—he thought it was menial. His father corrected him: making the fire was the most important job. “If you control the fire,” his father said, “only then can you be a great cook.” 

Why It Matters: This lesson extends beyond cooking. If you can control the fire within—your passions, reactions, and mindset—you can be anything you want. Pay attention to what’s underneath, not just what’s happening on the surface. How are you reacting to life’s challenges?

What’s Next: This week, take some time to find and tend to your own fire. Discover what fuels you, and focus on controlling it to achieve your goals.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 2 from Sifu Oscar: Discipline Breeds Creativity

Welcome to the Control Corner, your weekly dose of wisdom on mastering control in martial arts, health, and life. At Wah Lum, the flipped Chinese character for ‘Fire’ represents control—an idea central to everything we do. 

Let’s explore how focusing on what matters can help you reach your full potential.

Essentials: French novelist Gustave Flaubert once said, “Be regular and orderly in your life, so that you may be violent and original in your work.” His message highlights the power of discipline in personal life to unlock creativity and innovation in other areas.

Why it matters: Stability in your personal life – whether through routine, relationships, or self-discipline – frees you to be bold and daring in other areas. In your martial arts training, controlling the basics, you eliminate distractions and unnecessary complications, creating space for creativity and growth.

What’s Next: This week, focus on bringing order to your personal life. Simplify where you can, and watch how it frees up energy for your martial arts journey!

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

New blog post series: Control from Sifu Oscar – at the heart of Wah Lum

Welcome to this week’s edition of the Control Corner, where we explore the art of control – whether in martial arts, health, or life. At Wah Lum, the Chinese Character for “Fire” is flipped upside down to symbolize Control, a philosophy also woven into the Control Your Health logo. 

Each week, we’ll share insights to help you focus on what matters and unlock your full potential. Enjoy!

Essentials: In this section, we’ll explore the concept of Control. At Wah Lum, the Chinese character for “Fire” is flipped upside down to symbolize Control. The symbol is also used in the Control Your Health logo, honoring the deep-rooted philosophy passed down from Grandmaster Chan. Check out Sifu Mimi explaining a little bit more about Wah Lum Philosophy HERE

Why it matters: Control begins with self-awareness – understanding what’s truly important to you. While you can’t control everything, you can focus on the things within your reach, like your health and martial arts practice.

What’s Next: Stay tuned for more insights on Control in our weekly blog. For now, start your week by reflecting on what truly matters to you!

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

star fruit tree

Good fruit comes to those who wait!

 

Today I did something I never do.  I went outside to pick starfruit from the tree outside of my house.  I do not consider myself to be overly girly, but I am not what one would consider an ‘outdoor’ person.  I have allergies, I don’t like insects, and mosquitos are attracted to me like honey to the bees.  I decided to make a fruit basket as a gift, and  I thought fresh starfruit from my tree would be a great addition.

When I went outside (ugh), I started using the nifty bamboo stick tool my father made to reach all the high starfruit.  I was suddenly reminded of the day the tree was planted.  When I was around 9 years old, my father rushed into the house, and told me to come outside to see the tree that would bear fresh starfruit.  He said, “You are going to be so happy, this tree will have a lot of fruit. You really likey.”  I quickly put my shoes on, as I was ready to eat some fruit!  (I loved fruit growing up, and still do)  I img_1539stepped outside and saw nothing except a little stick in the ground with some branches and a little leaf.  I said, “Where’s the fruit?”  He said excitedly, “In 10 years you are going to be really happy.  You 100% have a lot of fruit.”  I grumbled and went back in the house.  10 years?  How was I supposed to wait 10 years for a piece of fruit?  Why not go to the grocery store and get it NOW?  Why wait? I was an impatient child, and had much to learn.  10 years quickly passed, and I had forgotten about the tree. (again, not an outdoors person, so not once had I watered that tree)  The tree did bear fruit, and so much in fact, that we always had an abundance of starfruit almost year round. Fast forward 30 years later, and here I am gathering fruit from that same tree today.

My father wakes up before the sun rises and starts his day by going to the Wah Lum Temple to light incense to honor his ancestors.   After this ritual, he spends several hours nurturing his plants and tending to his fish.  This  is all a part of his routine, but it is much Control, patiencemore than just simple chores.  He is constantly planning for the future, planting seeds today, for the fruit for tomorrow.  My father, a true master, has the foresight to know how fruitful and abundant a tree can be with consistent care and hard work.   I do not have a green thumb, so I have a lot to learn before attempting to plant a new tree.  However, I will continue to nurture the trees that my father has planted, and I will continue the traditions he began.  I will also light incense to honor my ancestors, and I will try to practice hard work and patience (foh gee diu jin) every day during every task no matter how big or small.

 

DISCLAIMER:  I was waiting to ‘fix’ this post and improve it, but then I realized I would never post it if I waited for it to be ‘perfect’.   I do not consider myself to be a pro blogger or a distinguished writer.  I have some fond memories of my Wah Lum journey that I simply would like to share.  I came to the realization that I’ve been fortunate to lead an interesting (and unconventional) life to say the least, and I’ve been asked to share.  I consider myself to be a private person, but sharing positive energy when there is so much negativity feels right.  I hope you are at the very least entertained.  So I intend to share my stories either by blog, vlog, or podcast. (all coming soon)  Please follow, like, subscribe or whatever the term is!