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Control Corner 24 with Sifu Oscar: The Power of Self-Examination

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In martial arts and in life, control is everything. That’s why at Wah Lum, the flipped Chinese character for ‘Fire’ symbolizes the art of control. Welcome to the Control Corner, your weekly guide to focusing on what matters and achieving your potential.

Essentials: Success isn’t just about talent or luck—it’s about the ability to reflect, learn, and grow. As Angela Duckworth, author of Grit, points out, those who succeed have a strong appetite for self-examination.

Why It Matters: Taking time to assess yourself—especially after setbacks—builds resilience. Instead of dwelling on failure, ask: How could I have done this better? What can I learn from this? The ability to reflect and adjust is what turns challenges into stepping stones.

What’s Next: Make self-examination a habit. After training, a tough day, or a misstep, pause and reflect. The more you refine your approach, the stronger you become—both in Kung Fu and in life.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

There’s No Such Thing as Failure, Only Feedback

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Turning Setbacks into Stepping Stones

Setbacks happen. But here’s the secret: they’re not failures—they’re feedback. It’s all about how you respond and grow.

Step 1: Normalize Challenges

Feel off track? Distracted? Stuck? That’s normal! What matters is taking action to move forward.

Step 2: Growth Mindset Strategies

  • Remind yourself: Every setback is just feedback.
  • Take one small action to get back on track.
  • Change your environment to improve focus.
  • Get support—ask a friend, an instructor, or send us an email!

Step 3: Learn and Grow

Treat challenges as opportunities to refine your approach. Each one offers valuable lessons.

Your Challenge

This week, notice your setbacks and reframe them as feedback. 

Take one small step forward and keep learning. Growth isn’t always easy, but it’s worth it.

Let’s make this week about progress, not perfection!

Sifu Oscar

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

What’s Actually Sustainable

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Sustainable Progress: Small Steps, Big Results

Consistency beats perfection every time. Whether you’re training or tackling life’s challenges, focusing on what’s sustainable will help you achieve your goals without burnout.

Step 1: Adjust Expectations

Life gets busy—it’s normal! Success isn’t about going all-in every day; it’s about finding a rhythm you can maintain. Even a 10% consistent effort can deliver results over time.

Step 2: Think on a Continuum

Avoid “all or nothing” thinking. Instead, ask, “What’s one small thing I can do today?” A little better every day adds up to long-term growth.

Your Long-Game Strategy

This week, set realistic goals that fit your life and stick with them. Whether it’s five minutes of practice or a short meditation, consistency builds results. Play the long game, and you’ll see the progress add up.

Sifu Oscar

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.