Author: Oscar Agramonte

Control Corner 20 from Sifu Oscar: Breaking Free From the Addiction to Problems

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Welcome back to the Control Corner! Each week, we explore the philosophy of control—rooted in Wah Lum’s flipped ‘Fire’ character—and how it applies to martial arts, health, and life. Ready to take charge? Let’s begin!

Essentials: What’s the biggest addiction in the world? It’s not food or opiates—it’s problems. Problems allow us to justify our worth, even when we doubt ourselves. They give us excuses: “It’s not my fault, I have (enter diagnosis here)” or “I can’t because of this.” The question is, how are your problems meeting your needs?

Here’s the truth: Fear feeds these illusions. But most of what you fear isn’t real. You are far more powerful than anything fear throws your way. As the saying goes, “You get what you tolerate in life.”

Why It Matters: Controlling Your Health isn’t just about physical fitness. It’s about empowerment—the opposite of being stuck in excuses or letting problems define your path. True fitness is the ability to tackle any task and expand your life in ways you didn’t expect.

Don’t get trapped in the either/or mindset. Life isn’t about finding the answer; it’s about trusting in simple, logical truths and taking steps forward.

What’s Next: Take a moment to reflect on the fears or excuses holding you back. Are they real, or are they illusions? Define the goal you’re working toward—and recognize that the journey will elevate all areas of your life.

There are people ready to help, and your first step is simple: Stop tolerating what holds you back. Step into empowerment, face the fear, and trust in your ability to create change.

Control your mindset, and you’ll control your future.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 19 from Sifu Oscar: Smart People on Mastering Your Mind, Mastering Your Life

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Control your thoughts, your health, your path. Welcome to the Control Corner, where we draw on Wah Lum’s teachings—embodied by the flipped ‘Fire’ character—to share weekly insights for mastering life’s challenges.

Essentials: Our thoughts are powerful—so much so that controlling them can shape the course of our lives. 

Almost 700 years ago, poet Rumi revealed the power of self-reflection: “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” 

Charles Darwin expanded on this idea, reminding us: “The highest stage of moral culture is when we recognize that we ought to control our thoughts.”

Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl took it even further, saying: “The last human freedom is the ability to control our own thoughts.”

Why It Matters: True control begins with the mind. Whether it’s in martial arts, health, or daily life, the way we think determines the way we act. 

American Weightlifting legend, Tommy Kono captures it perfectly: “True fitness, in body, mind, and soul, comes from realizing that our own thoughts, our own wills, dominate our decision-making process.” 

By managing your thoughts, you’re laying the foundation for better choices and a more purposeful life.

What’s Next: Pay attention to the narrative running through your mind. Are your thoughts building you up or holding you back? Take small moments to pause, reflect, and redirect. 

Start with your breath, just like in our warmups—it’s the perfect anchor to refocus and regain clarity. Control your thoughts, and you’ll find yourself controlling your path.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 18 from Sifu Oscar: Observing the Present, Regaining Control

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Welcome to the Control Corner, where Wah Lum’s philosophy of control—symbolized by the flipped ‘Fire’ character—guides us. Each week, we’ll help you focus on what matters and grow in martial arts, health, and life.

Essentials: Our breathing practice during warmups isn’t just a routine—it’s a mental exercise that builds focus and clarity. Just like meditation, connecting to your breath helps you face truths about yourself and better understand your emotions. If you can’t notice the sensation of your breath, how can you begin to truly understand complex emotions like anger or fear?

Why It Matters: Most of us spend our days distracted, our attention pulled in a thousand directions. Our breathing practice is a way to reclaim control by reconnecting with what’s happening right now. Observing your breath during warmups trains you to focus on your thoughts, emotions, and bodily sensations with curiosity and clarity. This mindfulness builds self-awareness and self-control.

What’s Next: During warmups, pay close attention to your breathing. Notice its rhythm, how it feels, and where you sense it most. Over time, expand this focus to observe how your body and mind react to emotions like anger or fear.

Control starts with the basics. By practicing mindful breathing, you take the first step toward understanding and mastering yourself.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 17 from Sifu Oscar: Trusting Intuition, Embracing Awareness

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Control is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. At Wah Lum, the flipped ‘Fire’ character represents that philosophy, and the Control Corner is where we explore how it applies to your martial arts, health, and life goals.

Essentials: Intuition is a powerful tool—it’s knowing something without fully understanding why. Gavin de Becker, in his book The Gift of Fear reminds us that intuition can be rooted in curiosity, suspicion, dark humor, and fear. While denial is choosing not to know something despite having the facts, intuition invites us to trust the signals we perceive, even if they defy logic.

Why It Matters: Your intuition is like an early warning system, designed to protect you. Suppressing those feelings in the name of over-analysis or fear of being politically incorrect can put you at risk. The key isn’t blind reaction but thoughtful awareness—listening to your inner voice while taking responsibility for your safety.

What’s Next: Train your intuition by feeding it the right information. Martial artists, study their environment, understand patterns, and refine their ability to discern. When a feeling arises, ask yourself: Am I going to ignore this or pay attention? The more you honor your intuition, the stronger it becomes.

Control isn’t about paranoia; it’s about being prepared, present, and willing to listen to the one person you’re most responsible for—yourself.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 16 from Sifu Oscar: The Power of Self-Awareness

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The flipped ‘Fire’ character at Wah Lum isn’t just a symbol—it’s a reminder that control transforms lives. Welcome to the Control Corner, where we share practical insights each week to help you focus and unlock your potential.

Essentials: Control begins with self-awareness- knowing who you are, owning it, and embracing both your strengths and shortcomings. True control isn’t about perfection; it’s about honesty. 

Why It Matters: When you stop chasing a romanticized version of yourself, accept what you don’t excel at, and lean into what makes you great, everything changes. Execution matters more than ideas, and self-awareness gives you the clarity to move forward with purpose. Accepting yourself isn’t just liberating; it’s your strongest play.  

What’s Next: Reflect on your strengths. What do you do better than most? Where do you struggle? Be honest. Create an environment where you – and others – can speak the truth without fear. Use that truth to fuel your next move.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 15 from Sifu Oscar: Prioritizing Health Over Fitness

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Welcome to this week’s edition of the Control Corner! Inspired by Wah Lum’s flipped Chinese character for ‘Fire,’ we’ll share insights to help you master control and achieve balance in martial arts, health, and everyday life.

Essentials: As my strength coach Brett Jones wisely said, “The only place fitness comes before health is in the dictionary.” This highlights a powerful truth: prioritizing fitness at the expense of health is a losing game. True training success lies in enhancing overall well-being, not just chasing performance goals.

Why It Matters: Exercise and training should support your health, not compromise it. Sleep, stress management, and nutrition are just as important as hitting your reps. A body fueled by rest and proper care performs better, recovers faster, and sustains progress longer.

What’s Next: This philosophy is why we named our strength, conditioning, and fitness program Control Your Health instead of something like “Control Your Fitness,” even though fitness-focused names might be more popular. Health isn’t just the foundation of all progress—it’s the long-term goal. This week, take a moment to assess: Are you prioritizing health as the bedrock of your training? Small changes in sleep, nutrition, or stress management can make a world of difference!

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 14 from Sifu Oscar: Mastering the Tools, Not Being One

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At Wah Lum, the flipped ‘Fire’ character represents control—a powerful philosophy woven into our practice and teachings. Welcome to this week’s Control Corner, where we explore ways to focus on what matters and grow in martial arts, health, and life.

Essentials: Jim Kwik in his book Limitless compares technology to fire: a tool that can either cook your food or burn your house down, depending on how you use it. Tools like fire—and technology—are neither inherently good nor bad. The key is conscious control. Without it, you risk becoming the tool, rather than the master.

Why It Matters: In a world filled with distractions, it’s easy to let technology take over. Notifications, endless scrolling, and digital noise can consume our time and energy. Control isn’t about avoiding technology; it’s about setting boundaries and using it purposefully. Think of it as mastering your Kung Fu and Tai Chi skills – you decide how to wield it for good.

What’s Next: This week, take inventory of your digital habits. Are they serving your goals, or are they pulling you off course? Try setting time limits on apps or dedicating tech-free zones in your day. Remember, control is about using tools to empower, not enslave.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 13 from Sifu Oscar: Kindling the Fire Within

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This is the Control Corner, where every week we dive into Wah Lum’s philosophy of control—symbolized by the flipped ‘Fire’ character—and apply it to health, martial arts, and living your best life. Ready to take control? Let’s get started!

Essentials: In Greek mythology, Prometheus gave fire to humanity, a symbol of knowledge, power, and transformation. Plutarch built on this idea, saying, “The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled.” These metaphors remind us that true growth isn’t about passively receiving information but actively nurturing curiosity, creativity, and self-mastery.

Why It Matters: Fire represents potential and power, but without control, it can burn out or cause destruction. In martial arts and life, cultivating your inner fire—your passion, focus, and drive—requires the discipline to direct it purposefully. Control isn’t about suppressing your fire but fueling it wisely so it burns bright and steady.

What’s Next: This week, think about your own fire. What sparks your curiosity or drives your goals? How can you stoke it with intention? Start by learning something new or challenging yourself in your practice—kindle your fire and watch it illuminate your path forward.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 12 from Sifu Oscar: Structure Sets You Free

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Welcome to the Control Corner, where the flipped ‘Fire’ character inspires us to focus and take control. Whether it’s martial arts, health, or everyday life, we’re here to guide you on the path to mastery. Let’s begin this week’s journey!

Essentials: Structure and creativity might seem like opposites, but they work together beautifully. As the book Think Faster, Talk Smarter points out, structure can actually enhance spontaneity. It gives you a foundation for creativity while keeping your communication clear, concise, and focused.

Why It Matters: When our Wah Lum instructors are teaching – whether it’s during a Kung Fu or Tai Chi class –  the structure of the basics ensures our message lands effectively. 

One simple yet powerful method is “What—So What—Now What.” 

Start with your point (What), explain why it matters (So What), and end with actionable steps (Now What).

What’s Next: Try using this structure in your own training. 

For example: What? Joint Mobility improves your movement. 

So What? It reduces injuries and builds strength. 

Now What? Start a daily joint routine to stay healthy and strong.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.

Control Corner 11 from Sifu Oscar: Cultivating Awareness for Success

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At Wah Lum, the flipped Chinese character for ‘Fire’ reminds us that control is the key to mastering life’s challenges. Welcome to the Control Corner, where we share weekly wisdom to help you unlock your potential.

Essentials: Awareness isn’t about waiting for the right moment—it’s about tuning into the present, especially as life gets busy. By focusing on what you can control now, you’ll create a solid foundation for success, whether that’s with fitness, nutrition, or stress management.

Why It Matters: Many of us approach vacations or holidays with a “survival mode” mindset. But with awareness, you can maintain stability without feeling overwhelmed. Being mindful of your responses to everyday stress can help you stay focused on what truly matters, making the life more enjoyable and meaningful.

What’s Next: This week, take a few moments each day to notice what’s within your control. Simple actions like slowing your breathing, focusing on one task at a time, or grounding yourself in your surroundings can make a huge difference.

 

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are ways we can help you get started.

1. Schedule a time to observe a class.
Interested in Kung Fu or Tai Chi?  First step is to watch a class and see if we would be a good fit! Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for an appointment.

2. Become part of my exclusive Coaching Group with CYH Remote Coaching.  Get personalized coaching delivered right to your phone and catered to your specific goals. Email: kungfu@wahlum.com for info.